Companionship

Some of us can say we’re quite individualistic despite projecting the norms and attitudes associated with our tight-knit social circles or cultures; some of us can honestly say our actions are purely self-decided, that they’re not influenced by others, that we create our own path rather than happily follow the trail of someone else’s and that’s good. Some of us anomalies might find we’re so confident being individualists that we lack the ability to recognize that we’ve become so independent that the need for companionship and trust seem like an alien emotion or feeling. Eventually, we might even become so self-involve and prideful that we start to feel that we can solve all our problems on our own… but there comes a time we find that we may need help, that we might need someone to confide in or just lean on and it’s in these moments that even the most strong-minded individuals find themselves battling that dire need for companionship.

Trust is a factor that is extremely essential to have in all our lives; you get some of us who choose to dish it out more often than society chooses to throw around the word “love”; you get others who choose to reserve it for those they feel rightfully deserve it; and then you get those of us who choose not to trust at all. Even though, we’re not aware of it we choose to trust those around us a lot more than we think, for example, you go to a restaurant you trust they’re obeying hygiene standards when preparing your food and then you trust they won’t leave you feeling sick after your consumption. However, the difference between subconsciously and consciously trusting someone is understandably major, so for those of us who choose not to trust the people we’re really close to, usually find that they’ve become so accustomed to seclusion that they lose out on some really great friendships.

Great friends are hard to find in this world and sometimes previous experiences of distrust and betrayal can leave you feeling as though the pain of trusting again is not worth it. Sometimes, you’ll find that if you live your life around this feeling then all life has to offer you is loneliness, tedious daily routines and welcoming periods of melancholy (if that’s what you need then feel free to not trust anyone at all). But I think it’s worth it to have one or two companions maybe even a few more if you wish, that way you have someone to turn to in times of turmoil. Companionship leads to friendship, to get there you have to learn to trust someone or something you feel comfortable around, knowing they accept you and you accept them for who they are, with the unbearable will to be honest at all cost due to having the other’s best interest at heart.

“A companion loves some agreeable qualities which a man may possess, but a friend loves the man himself.” - James Boswell.