Keep tryin’ (Part 2)

For whatever reason there are some people in life that we feel the need to give up on; we may feel that it has reached the point in which we just have to admit that we’ve given them too many chances, they’ve blown it and now it’s time to throw in the towel. It would be wrong for me to tell you that you should not give up on these types of people, but I think it’s wise to take some time out to sit down and reflect on how much you’ll be giving up and the difference these people could make in your life if you keep them around.

I think sometimes because of the high expectations we hold in our minds or heart of our close ones we forget that despite how well we think we know them they’re still unpredictable . Even though, we feel it should be simple for them to do what we feel is the right thing it may not be as easy for them as we would like to think; the important thing to acknowledge sometimes is the courageous effort they put into continually trying. A lot of times we fail to take heed of the degree of goodness these types of people emit in our lives due to the bad things they’ve done outweighing the good.

I understand that sometimes giving up may seem like the only thing to do if there’s any hope of helping both you and this person but I’m just saying make sure when your giving up you can wholeheartedly say you’ve tried to help this person as much as you could because they might feel that if you give up on them then they should give up on themself as well.  Maybe it’s time to start motivating people more, let them know that some form of change or progress has to  manifest for you to keep trying, let them know that you only want the best for them and that as long as they evidently keep trying you’ll do the same.

 

“Expect people to be better than they are; it helps them to become better. But don’t be disappointed when they are not; it helps them to keep trying” – Merry Browne.

Keep Tryin’ (Part 1)

“Don’t ever give up. You gotta keep trying, and never give up.” - Ryan Sheckler.

Sometimes there comes a point we hit a brick wall or just feel as though we’ve reached the end of the road, a point in which we find ourselves contemplating on whether or not we should just give up or continue trying. The thing you might want to remember when you reach that point is that giving up is very easy and the result of doing it never lead to changes or progression, but repeatedly trying takes courage and by doing so who knows where you might end up - main thing is you’ll progress.

There’s a famous proverb from Thomas H. Palmer that says “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again” and it’s easy to hear these sayings and say you will, especially when your life’s going great but you never truly know how much effort you’re willing to make unless you’re battling adversity. I could sit here and write millions of uplifting quotes about the importance of persistently trying in life, but unless you’re willing to try and make a difference in your life it makes no difference what I have to say.

I find that whenever we’ve reached breaking point we seek inspiration from the lives of others, we seek advice or support from those around us and that’s fine, but I once read advice is something we seek when we already know the answers to the questions we are asking but find ourselves too overwhelmed by fear to act without approval. I think all the inspiration you need is in the mirror, it’s in the footsteps you leave, the inner courage you underestimate and more importantly it’s in the vision you have for your life. Trying is easier than you think just remember the people you’re inspired by faces brick walls too but they didn’t give up so don’t make that an option for yourself.

“To fail is a natural consequence of trying; to succeed takes time and prolonged effort in the face of unfriendly odds. To think it will be any other way, no matter what you do, is to invite yourself to be hurt and to limit your enthusiasm for trying again.” - David Viscott.

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Structure

Some say it’s better to picture a house and the process it undergoes before it becomes a home. They say before the house is built there has to be a plan, a structure of some sort, and once it’s a house further structuring will be needed if there’s any hope of creating the perfect home you pictured. They say it’s the same with life, we have these little plans that we put in motion hoping it leads to this remarkable picture we have in our minds, but a lot of us fail to acknowledge the importance of structuring everything that lies within those little plans.

With only 24 hours in a day, a lot of us may find that having some form of structure throughout the day keeps us sane - helps us to get from point A to B easier and quicker – usually these daily objectives are performed with a larger goal in mind and we know by following a particular schedule or plan we’ll accomplish something greater. But what if structure is just not your thing? What if planning your whole life around your apparent lifetime dream just seem too restrictive and stressful to think about?  What if you just want to go about life doing whatever, in the hope it leads to something tolerable or remarkable? I don’t think lacking structure in your life prevents you from accomplishing just as much as anyone else that structured their path to success; it just means you’re wired differently, open to unpredictability, and you choose to let your life find its own structure rather than forcing it to be this perfect image you mentally designed.

Structure or not life has a way of surprising us all; structure or not failure is something you may have to face and if you do it’s best you keep going: if you need structure then create a plan B, if you don’t need it then stop and think about what to do next but more importantly do what makes you happy. Personally, I think structure like many things in life is overrated, it may be needed but it’s overrated. I think it’s best to do joyous things that leads to something you’ll be proud of, rather than doing things you feel you have to (despite not being happy with), in the hopes it would lead to something you dreamed about but not entirely sure will leave you feeling content in the end. Sometimes life has a structure already laid out for us, one that could bring about more than we ever imagined, but because we’ve got other plans…

“Structure is one of the things that I always hope will reveal itself to me.” - Richard Russo

Companionship

Some of us can say we’re quite individualistic despite projecting the norms and attitudes associated with our tight-knit social circles or cultures; some of us can honestly say our actions are purely self-decided, that they’re not influenced by others, that we create our own path rather than happily follow the trail of someone else’s and that’s good. Some of us anomalies might find we’re so confident being individualists that we lack the ability to recognize that we’ve become so independent that the need for companionship and trust seem like an alien emotion or feeling. Eventually, we might even become so self-involve and prideful that we start to feel that we can solve all our problems on our own… but there comes a time we find that we may need help, that we might need someone to confide in or just lean on and it’s in these moments that even the most strong-minded individuals find themselves battling that dire need for companionship.

Trust is a factor that is extremely essential to have in all our lives; you get some of us who choose to dish it out more often than society chooses to throw around the word “love”; you get others who choose to reserve it for those they feel rightfully deserve it; and then you get those of us who choose not to trust at all. Even though, we’re not aware of it we choose to trust those around us a lot more than we think, for example, you go to a restaurant you trust they’re obeying hygiene standards when preparing your food and then you trust they won’t leave you feeling sick after your consumption. However, the difference between subconsciously and consciously trusting someone is understandably major, so for those of us who choose not to trust the people we’re really close to, usually find that they’ve become so accustomed to seclusion that they lose out on some really great friendships.

Great friends are hard to find in this world and sometimes previous experiences of distrust and betrayal can leave you feeling as though the pain of trusting again is not worth it. Sometimes, you’ll find that if you live your life around this feeling then all life has to offer you is loneliness, tedious daily routines and welcoming periods of melancholy (if that’s what you need then feel free to not trust anyone at all). But I think it’s worth it to have one or two companions maybe even a few more if you wish, that way you have someone to turn to in times of turmoil. Companionship leads to friendship, to get there you have to learn to trust someone or something you feel comfortable around, knowing they accept you and you accept them for who they are, with the unbearable will to be honest at all cost due to having the other’s best interest at heart.

“A companion loves some agreeable qualities which a man may possess, but a friend loves the man himself.” - James Boswell.